So I’ve been single for a while now and I enjoy that a lot. But people seem to don’t understand me.

Don’t get me wrong, I like being in the relationship, but being single tought me a lot about myself, about my friends, about people around me and what I actually want from the partner.

  1. First of all being single opened my eyes about my friends. Because when you’re in the relationship the main  focus is your partner. You get support, comfort, love from your partner so friends become kind of secondary focus. My most deep, meaningful and authentic friendship started when I became single. And this happened because the main focus of my (social) life was gone so I’ve became more open to the suroundings and to the people around me. Once I spread my attention to more than one person amazing and deep connections more likely to happen.
  2. There is time to focus on you. And as much as I thought I was self aware when I had boyfriend it changed once I became single. Being alone (and especially since I live alone) it gave me perspective how closed minded I was before. Now I can explain more things about myself, about my motives, I know myself more. Sure, big part of self awareness comes as I mature. But being single gives me more time to think about myself and to love myself more.
  3. I can do whatever I want. Sure you’re free person, but being in the relationship doesn’t give you as much space. I remember being in the relationship doesn’t feel so spacious as being alone. I can make decisions based on what I truly want.


People see being single as something to be avoided in life. If you choose, it can be made into a great experience. Althought relationship and love is fantastic I feel that being single is fantastic as well.

D. x




  1. amritasidhu says:

    If I would have read your blog 3 days back I would have completely agreed with every word you said, but recently I saw a few people around me who balanced their relationship in such a way all my doubts about relationships just flew away.
    But like it is said, everyone cannot be a super hero so I’d agree with what you’ve written.
    And I’m glad I’m single and really happyy!! 😀
    I Loved your blog.

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  2. fitnessgrad says:

    Pleasure to meet you and thank you for stopping by my blog page and having a follow. I appreciate it. I have a cousin with the name “Diva”, so interesting to meet another 😀
    Also, I enjoyed reading this particular post because I have just recently got out of a relationship in mi-October and it had been my first relationship since year or so – I don’t serial date and I have gotten used to being single when I am, because like you said it makes you realize things, other parts of yourself and life in general when your focus shifts. I find that whenever I do end up a relationship after being out of one for so long, I have grown as a person and partner.


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    1. Diva says:

      Hello, thank you so much for your comment. My name is actually not Diva it’s combination of my first and last name, but people sometimes call me that 😀
      I really can tell that you’re a strong woman who takes, someone would call terrible thing (i.e. breakup), to a positive thing for your personal growth.
      Your comment really warmed my heart 🙂


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      1. fitnessgrad says:

        My apologizes for calling you by a wrong name, I guess I assumed – but it makes sense why others may call you the same thing as I have. I appreciate your warm compliment. I have been learning more and more about myself and what I am capable of:)

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  3. rosegoldpearlsxo says:

    My sentiments exactly! 👏🏾👏🏾 nothing wrong with being by yourself and focusing on yourself. That’s where many people go wrong: they search for happiness and fulfillment from a romance rather than from within.
    And people assume you’re lonely. I’m not lonely at all lol I actually enjoy my own company than constantly having someone around all the time.

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  4. JoAnna says:

    I learned the hard way that being single was better than being with someone who added too much stress to my life. I had to love me and be okay being single before I was ready for a healthy relationship. There are plenty of benefits to being single. You’ve done a good job of summarizing them!

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  5. Idealize says:

    I 100% agree with you. I feel that the hardest part is realising that your happiness depends only on your own self. Simply. True love starts from within then the rest comes naturally.
    Thanks for stopping by my blog and deciding to follow, I really appreciate it.
    I’m Idealize, by the way and it is nice meeting you 😊😅 Good luck with everything. Take care.

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  6. grevisangel73 says:

    Hi Dive, thanks for following my blog, I am now following yours. There’s a lot to cover, so it will take awhile. I look forward to reading more of your work. This subject of this piece is dear to my heart, being single is the best.

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  7. Oh, the Places We See says:

    We loved reading this post — we’ve been married and living together for 49 years, so we can hardly remember being single. But you have great points, and there are days when the single life sounds pretty awesome! Thanks for following our blog, Oh, the Places We See. Glad you can travel alongside of us! — Bert and Rusha

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  8. Soul Gifts says:

    There are pros and cons to both being single and in a relationship. In relationships it’s a matter of learning to balance life so you can have me time. That comes with maturity and trust. Having said that, there is nothing wrong with being single either. It’s life style choices and being comfortable in your own skin either way.
    Have a wonderful 2017 🙂 thank you so much for the follow. Truly appreciated !

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  9. bethealfelsia says:

    Hi. Nice post. I like it. Well written. I am so happy to being a single . many times I like it but Sometimes I need someone to be With me.when I’m single I had great time with God. I share many things to him . It’s a good time to analyse myself. Thanks for this post.

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  10. Kathy in Rewind says:

    Hey, beautiful thoughts and a really awesome post! I’ve been single for almost 2 years now.. And still quite enjoying it! Although sometimes I feel that it would be nice to have someone by my side.
    And what about you, Diva? Are you currently dating or at least have someone on your mind perhaps? 🙂


    1. MY LIFE RAMBLES says:

      I can relate, sometimes I also want someone by my side, especially after watching romantic movie hahaha. But it’s very complicated for me, I realized that I don’t like to date if I don’t feel THE SPARKLE. Even thought person is very nice and interesting I can’t go out on dates and pretend that it’s leading to something when I know we’re never going to be together…
      Actually I usually fell for guys who has girlfriends. So no dating for me 😀
      Thank you for your comment ❤


      1. Kathy in Rewind says:

        I feel you. 🙂 From my experience, I noticed that ‘sparks’ tend to fade away rather quickly just as quickly they appear. And in the end you realize that it was nothing really more than your psychosomatic reaction to certain behaviors of your partner. Just some chemicals messin’ around in your brain.
        So if you’re looking for a long term relationship that lasts – i found that it’s more complex than just ‘feelings you can’t explain’. You also need to rely on your ‘research’ on why your partner is behaving a certain way, what are you looking for in a man etc. But as well be courageous enough to be open-hearted.
        But if you just wanna have fun – there’s nothing wrong with it. 🙂

        Just remember that if it feels kinda’ ‘not right’ or difficult at first – it’s a good indicator that it’s worth working for it. Because as you know – nothing worth having comes easy in this life.

        I actually had this kind of situation when i dated a guy who was really nice and charming but kinda’ “hard”.. in a way that he has been pretty hard to read, maybe ‘shy’ or more introverted (just like i am…). So definitely no sparkles there.. But after some time it really went well and he turned out to be most magnificent, caring and sensible person i’ve ever been with. And i’ve dated some jerk guys previously when i thought i ‘fell in love’ instantly… Turned out to be other way around. 🙂

        My god… what a letter i wrote. Worked as a therapy for me. :)) Sorry if I sounded too nerdy or patronizing.


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