So I’ve been single for a while now and I enjoy that a lot. But people seem to don’t understand me.
Don’t get me wrong, I like being in the relationship, but being single tought me a lot about myself, about my friends, about people around me and what I actually want from the partner.
- First of all being single opened my eyes about my friends. Because when you’re in the relationship the main focus is your partner. You get support, comfort, love from your partner so friends become kind of secondary focus. My most deep, meaningful and authentic friendship started when I became single. And this happened because the main focus of my (social) life was gone so I’ve became more open to the suroundings and to the people around me. Once I spread my attention to more than one person amazing and deep connections more likely to happen.
- There is time to focus on you. And as much as I thought I was self aware when I had boyfriend it changed once I became single. Being alone (and especially since I live alone) it gave me perspective how closed minded I was before. Now I can explain more things about myself, about my motives, I know myself more. Sure, big part of self awareness comes as I mature. But being single gives me more time to think about myself and to love myself more.
- I can do whatever I want. Sure you’re free person, but being in the relationship doesn’t give you as much space. I remember being in the relationship doesn’t feel so spacious as being alone. I can make decisions based on what I truly want.
People see being single as something to be avoided in life. If you choose, it can be made into a great experience. Althought relationship and love is fantastic I feel that being single is fantastic as well.