I’m insecure, but…

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For many many years I had a lot of insecurities, from talking to people to my own physical appearance.

I have this faux fur coat. And it’s definitely statement piece in my closet, I had it for years but never wore it. Because when I do I feel like everyone is staring at me.  And I start to feel paranoid and uncomfortable… And something changed in my mind… I turned on “fuck it” mode. And started wearing that coat with confidence. And the most crazy thing happened. Everyone started to compliment me, and tell me how beautiful I look with that coat… I realized that it’s not the coat that makes me feel uncomfortable it’s my perception and my self doubt. Once I got rid of that I feel more than comfortable with that coat, and more confident.

Also I never posted anything on this blog before sending for a quick check to my sister, because she speaks very good in English, and English is not my first language. I felt insecure about posting blog posts. I was afraid of failure and not being perfect. But I realized that it’s better to at least try (and fail) then sit and wonder “what would happen if I would do what I truly want to do”. I know I’m not perfect but I’m trying my best. And it feels better than constantly doubting.

When I understood that it’s my life it’s my choices and everything I do with my life should worry only me, great things started to happen to me. People don’t put all of their attention to what I am doing so why not just do whatever I want to do and if someone will approve – great. If not- just don’t stress about it. I realized that you won’t be perfect no matter how hard you work. look at Beyonce, she’s one of the most successful artist of all time but she still has a lot of haters. What if Beyonce would try to please everyone? I bet no one even would know who she is because she would be to afraid of failure and wouldn’t even try.

I guess my point is that if you have a dream and passion you should fulfill that dream  no matter how stupid it seems or what people think of that. You have to put a shield on, shake off all insecurities, excuses and doubts and just do it. Because when you will start doing what you want and truly believe in yourself – you will see how happy it makes you feel and later you won’t even notice haters and you will lose all your insecurities and doubts. You will improve and you will feel more motivated to do better.

Keep dreaming and fulfilling your dreams!

D. xo

 

39 thoughts on “I’m insecure, but…”

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    OaktownVibes says:

    I love this. I cant tell you how much I love this but I do. The world would be a more beautiful place if people learned to let go and be free and express themselves like you. Thank you so much for sharing this. Peace and love to you. Oh yea…did I mention how much I love this!

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    Lia says:

    All those years I spend being scared of what other people thought of me… what a waste! A few months ago I had a conversation on high school with one of my high school friends, and I said to her that I used to be scared of wearing skirts, because I thought that was considered weird. No-one wore skirts back then. And then she responded super surprised, because that was completely not the case, seems like it was just something in my head! Just like your fake fur coat problem.
    Great post! Very thought provoking 🙂

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    prinxy says:

    Bravo… Self Doubt, I just Published a Post on it… How are wish you never put off your self doubt, i guess you would have left that your coat without trying it out.. “I realized that it’s not the coat that makes me feel uncomfortable it’s my perception and my self doubt”.
    I love the part of trying to write and publish without sending first to your sister…. Word Press is a place i have learnt of lot things and am still learning…. so many have emailed me that your writings are filled with errors… i never allow it to get stick in my head, because i knew i won’t learn writing perfectly without giving it a try… I did my possible best to read all my followers post and all always focus on how they put their sentences together… Everything is worth a Try. You can never do it well until you Do it first….
    nice post… thanks for sharing

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      MY LIFE RAMBLES says:

      So glad to hear this 🙂 Challange yourself, do something you always wanted but was too afraid of other peoples reaction. Even thought it’s a small thing. You will see how proud of yourself you’re going to be. 🙂 That’s how I became more confident 🙂 ❤

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    AmyRose🌹 says:

    Just LOVE this post and how determined you are to be you. You are so right. Once we shake loose those own voices that “condemn” us those around us do view us differently. Keep on keeping on!! 🙂 ❤

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    Sparkyjen says:

    A body can be under-confident. A body can be confident. Somebody may appear to be over-confident. The lovely thing about learning life is we get to choose which serves our highest and best. I say, go for balance, and Just Be You. No body does it better!!!

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    Brandon L. Rucker says:

    A clean environment — OMG yes! I’m an OCD neat freak a little more in theory than in actual practice, which means my desk and office will undergo a build up of clutter before I finally clear the clutter away. And when I’m sitting down to start a new project, say with a clean mental slate, I have to clean the area around me or else I’ll feel encroached upon. So weird. But weird is synonymous with being a writer 😉

    Thanks for the follow, btw! Your blog is very interesting and I’m adding it to my follows as well 🙂

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    rosyblush says:

    Hi there, just wanted to say thanks so much for following my blog! I’m so glad you did because now I have found this wonderful little space on the internet. I love the way you write! This post is one of my favourites I’ve read in a long time, so thank you for this, I really needed it 🙂

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    Nilzeitung says:

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